This weekend should have been joyous. Two weddings to attend with frends and family. Your freinds wedding and my son's wedding. Since both people live in the same town in Northen ca., my son planned his wedding the same weekend as Shanes. It was a great idea so we didn't have to make a second 7 hr drive one way. Then all the joy slipped away. You informed me that you would not be attending my son's wedding and that I would need to drive seperately. Shocked. Hurt. Your reason was that your parents were watching your youngest daughter that weekend so you could attend the wedding. You didn't want to bother them with having her an extra day for my son's wedding. You felt bad for your parents, you said. I pointed out that this was a big day for me and my family, your extended family. I suggested we bring your daughter with us seeing that her mom lived 40 min away from where we would be, why drive back down to Socal and then half way up to Sacramento just a day later. Just bring her. You didn't want to because you wanted to drink at the wedding. When that didn't work I pointed out that you had on several, several occassions, put your parents out by having them watch your daughter so that you could go to a dive bar punk show. How was my son's wedding not more important. What on earth was I missing? You still said no. I cried, I argured. I pushed you to explain yourself. You just looked at me and said literally nothing, as usual. I pushed again. You finally said it wasn't a big deal and that I was making it one. Shocked. Hurt I drove seperately When I got there I informed you I would not be attending Shanes wedding with you. You said okay. I then told you that when I got back I was going to think about what I wanted to do going forward. About us, because something was wrong. This isn't normal. Why am I having to fight to recieve any consideration or kindness, support, just all things that should automatically be shared. You reluctantly agreed and came my son's wedding You attended and left as soon as they said I DO.